There is a special thrill that comes when you allow someone to bring you to your edge. It is quite a luxury to be the recipient of a carefully crafted scenario in which you can fully let go and explore your fears and taboos. Feeling the power placed in your hands to explore someone’s outermost limits also provides a particular rush. It is both a privilege and a responsibility to create a space in which someone feels they can surrender to you. Trust is essential when playing on the edge and only possible when all involved agree to slow down, listen to the other’s body language and agree to share the responsibility of communication. We give up control in many situations every day, our boundaries are approached and overstepped, often without our consent. Doing so in a safer space, giving someone permission to do so can be an empowering experience and can inform us of ways to set boundaries in other parts of our life.